{"id":686,"date":"2023-08-17T12:35:07","date_gmt":"2023-08-17T11:35:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/clearlightreadings.com\/?p=686"},"modified":"2023-08-21T07:23:46","modified_gmt":"2023-08-21T06:23:46","slug":"how-to-be-with-those-who-are-dying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/clearlightreadings.com\/index.php\/2023\/08\/17\/how-to-be-with-those-who-are-dying\/","title":{"rendered":"How To Be With Those Who Are Dying"},"content":{"rendered":"
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How To Be With Those Who Are Dying<\/h4>\n

Being with those who are dying is a most rewarding experience \u2014 an act of love.<\/p>\n

ABOUT BEING THERE\u00a0\u2014 Click here for more information.<\/a><\/h4>\n

To be means to exist, to live.\u00a0Being there<\/i>\u00a0is to live with one\u2019s full presence in the present. To be with someone is to be silent inside and to be in rapport.<\/p>\n

ABOUT DYING\u00a0\u2014 Click here for more information.<\/a><\/h4>\n

The verb \u201cdie\u201d comes from the Indo-European base dhue-, which means to pass away, become senseless.\u00a0Dying is a natural part of living<\/i>. Dying is the personal experience of the being letting go of its physical body.<\/p>\n

HOW TO BE THERE\u00a0\u2014 Click here for more information.<\/a><\/h4>\n

Don\u2019t desert<\/i>. In being there with the patient be open, simple and in the present. Listen with your heart, not your mind. There\u2019s often anger, denial and fear before acceptance of the inevitable.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to fix the pain<\/i>. The key to dying is allowing oneself to relax. Embracing our natural fears of the unknown with acceptance and joy brings one through difficult moments expanding our capacity to surrender and let go.<\/p>\n

Permit the terminal patient to remember their essential being<\/i>. The attention is designed to carry through the transitions of death and birth. The state between death and birth for which our western culture has no words becomes visible to the terminal patient as passage approaches.<\/p>\n

Be sincere and constant<\/i>. Being honest and speaking directly to the being helps maintain their connection to the purity and strength of their being, enabling them to meet passage with serenity.<\/p>\n

Be a terminal midwife<\/i>. The experience between death and birth carries with it forgetfulness and ego disintegration. Someone who is not experienced at remaining attentive through death may feel very disoriented. Being there as a midwife is an act of compassion toward the being, assisting them in remaining as conscious as possible through the ensuing unsettling transition.<\/p>\n

READING THE AMERICAN BOOK OF THE DEAD\u00a0\u2014 Click here for more information.<\/a><\/h4>\n

\u201cThis is really the book I didn\u2019t want to write\u2026It wasn\u2019t until 1974 that I discovered that this teaching had been neglected completely, and then finally lost, in the western world.\u201d (from the author\u2019s introduction to the American Book of the Dead, by E.J. Gold)<\/p>\n

The readings from the American Book of the Dead for the being are the direct teachings of the guides \u2013 you may think of them as teachers, sufis, arhats or bodhisattvas \u2013 and the instructions have been rendered into modern American English.<\/p>\n

It isn\u2019t necessary to understand the readings. Shortly before transition as well as passing through, the being has an all embracing clarity of vision and understanding. The reading will reach the part of the person that\u2019s actually passing into the macrodimensional domains and in that state understanding comes naturally.<\/p>\n

SIGNS OF PASSING\u00a0\u2014 Click here for more information.<\/a><\/h4>\n

There are observable indications that transition and\/or passage is near at hand:<\/p>\n

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  1. Loss of control over facial muscles.<\/li>\n
  2. High-pitched whistling, buzzing sounds, low rumbling thunder, or complete loss of hearing.<\/li>\n
  3. Visions, hallucinations or complete loss of sight.<\/li>\n
  4. Breath coming in gasps, Cheynes-Stokes breathing.<\/li>\n
  5. Cold sweats, teeth chattering, uncontrollable shivering.<\/li>\n
  6. Extreme agitation, anxiety, irritability, depression.<\/li>\n
  7. Lethargic calm, sudden inexplicable apparent absence of previous pain.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    THE PEACEFUL PASSAGE\u00a0\u2014 Click here for more information.<\/a><\/h4>\n

    In a culture which has a taboo against even knowing about death, relaxing into a peaceful attentive passage takes the help of a dedicated guide. A dedicated guide can be anyone who cares enough to assist a loved one or even a stranger through transition.<\/p>\n

    To use The American Book of the Dead is a small effort to help the being not resist or be distracted by the perceptions, sensations, and cognitions that dawn upon one when going through transition.<\/p>\n

    To guide and concentrate a being\u2019s attention on recognizing their true essential nature is an experience you will cherish and remember your whole life and beyond.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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    How To Be With Those Who Are Dying Being with those who are dying is a most rewarding experience \u2014 an act of love. ABOUT BEING THERE\u00a0\u2014 Click here for more information. To be means to exist, to live.\u00a0Being there\u00a0is to live with one\u2019s full presence in the present. To be with someone is to …<\/p>\n

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